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Why do I feel depressed?

July 10th, 2016 by Christine Leave a Comment

Professional workspace in Warwickshire – CBT therapist supporting clients with workplace stress

If you type the question ‘why do I feel depressed’ into google it will return thousands of results.  And they will all say something different.   It can be confusing and frustrating and no one seems to know the answers.

If you are feeling low you can feel very alone and misunderstood.  You might find that people close to you are fed up with your inability to ‘get your act together.’  You might not even have anyone close to you to talk to.  Maybe you never did.  Maybe they have drifted away.  Leaving you alone to get on with it.  That’s the thing about feeling low.  On the one hand you want to be on your own .  To pull the duvet over your head and shut the world out.  And on the other hand you desperately want someone to talk to.  Someone who won’t tell you what to do or to ‘pull yourself together.’  Someone who will listen to you and really hear your story and help you to understand yourself and the way you are feeling.  Someone who will help you to gain a new perspective and to work through your feelings so that you become able to make some changes in your life.

The ‘why’ question is really difficult.  There are so many theories about why you might feel low.  Some believe it’s a chemical imbalance in the brain and that antidepressant medication is the correct treatment.  It is important to talk to your GP about this.  Other people think that feeling low can be helped by the talking therapies.

Counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) are widely recognised as therapies which can help people suffering from low mood.  These therapies can help to find the answers to the ‘why’ question.  Maybe you have some unresolved losses in your life.  Counselling could help you to work through these.  Maybe you see the world as an unfriendly and harsh place.  Maybe you have lots of negative thoughts which come to mind automatically when you are face with challenging situations.  CBT could help you to challenge these automatic thoughts.

If you think you would like some help with your low mood then please get in touch.  If I think I can help then I’ll let you know.  If I think I can’t then I’ll let you know too.

About: Depression Source: Depression, Disappointment, Low Mood

I’ve made a mess of my life

July 16th, 2011 by Christine Leave a Comment

Counselling in Leamington Spa can help if you feel you've made a mess of your life.

Can you imagine what it feels like to wake up every day and feel that you’ve made a mess of your life?  To look around and wonder exactly why you have made the choices you have made?  To beat yourself up because you seem to have made the same mistakes over and over?  To feel that you have no control over your life and that what lies ahead just seems too hard to face?

In my counselling practice I work with many people who feel like this.  These people seek counselling because they can’t find anyone to understand them.  They are fed up with people telling them to ‘get their act together’ or telling them that they are a ‘loser’.  They feel distressed and lonely and simply don’t know what to do next.  The good news is that the future does not have to be like the past.  We can find a new way of being, explore different choices and learn to understand ourselves.  If we’re not sure who we are then it’s hard to get to know anyone else…….let alone allow them to get to know us.

Working with a Counsellor can be a very healing process.  It can help you to stop beating yourself up.  To start to value yourself.  To value others.  To learn about what it means to be in an authentic relationship with another person.  It could change your life.

About: About Counselling, Depression, Low Self-Esteem, Relationships Source: Anger, Depression, Disappointment, Low confidence, Low Mood, Low self-esteem, Mid-life crisis

1st January, 2011 – The first day of the rest of your life

January 1st, 2011 by Christine Leave a Comment

1st January, 2011 – The first day of the rest of your life

I would warmly like to wish you a very happy new year and I hope that you are able to find some joy and peace this year. I also know that this may not be possible for everyone, for those that feel depressed, disappointed or anxious or have suffered losses or are facing some kind of mid-life crisis. I am particularly thinking of those people today.

It is great to feel optimistic about the new year. A clean page waiting for us to write our story on it. New beginnings, fresh starts, opportunities, new goals and dreams, new relationships, a brand new diary to fill with private thoughts, feelings, reflections and desires. It reminds me of starting school with my new exercise books and being determined to keep them neat and tidy, free from doodles and spills. It seems so easy at the start of something new to see what we would like, so much harder to follow it through sometimes.

The start of a new year always involves some feelings of loss and this is normal. It may be that we are starting to feel our age or feeling disappointed with the way our life is turning out or regretting some of our behaviour or decisions. If you are feeling like this I hope that you are able to offer some compassion to yourself and stop beating yourself up. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. A chance to start creating a new story for yourself. What is standing in your way?

Copyright 2011 Christine Bonsmann. All rights reserved.

About: About Counselling Source: Change, Counselling, Disappointment, fresh, Moving on

Feeling Disappointed with Life

May 26th, 2010 by Christine Leave a Comment

Some clients come to counselling because they feel disappointed with the way that life is turning out but are unable to pinpoint anything in particular which is making them feel this way.

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About: Depression Source: Depression, Disappointment, Mid-life crisis

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