Do you find yourself stuck in your life and not know how to find a way forward? Does it seem like your relationships go wrong….and they always do? Do you keep ruminating over things that happened to you in the past and keep going over and over details? Do you wish that your life was different but feel that whatever you try makes no difference?
We all have times when we feel that life is hard and that we have messed up. You might find it hard to understand why you keep making the same mistakes over and over again. You might beat yourself up for getting something wrong and find it really hard to say sorry. You might make assumptions about other people and think that they have got life figured out. That can make you feel more miserable. Like you’re alone. You might isolate yourself from others. Or you might adopt some coping strategies to comfort yourself. Like eating too much. Or drinking too much. Or taking drugs.
Sometimes the reason people find it hard to cope or enjoy life is that the past is being played out in the present. Counselling can help you to understand whether this is happening. Some people don’t want to trawl through their past and this is understandable. It can be painful. However, recognising how the past is still ‘alive’ can help you to make some changes in your life. Better choices leading to a more fulfilled life.