by Counsellor, Leamington Spa, Warwickshire

One of the most inhibiting thoughts we can have is that other people are judging us. Can you imagine living your life constantly worrying about what others think of you and feeling that you don’t measure up?Can you imagine avoiding social gatherings because you worry that other people may find out that you are not as interesting/funny/intelligent as everyone else? Can you imagine diminishing every success you have and attributing it to luck?

Actually I meet many people who do feel this way. Sometimes it is because of the harsh messages they received when they were growing up which left them feeling that they weren’t good enough. Some people say things like “I think it’s just my personality” while others genuinely believe that they do not have the same rights as other people and try to stay in the background all their lives.

Could Counselling Help?

I think so. Counselling can help you to have a good look at your life, how you are feeling and how you are behaving. It can help you to explore why you do what you do and to look at ways of doing something different. Changing. Finding out how great your life could be. Learning that you are not inferior. Crucially counselling will give you an experience of not being judged. Your Counsellor will not tell you what to do or tell you off for what you have done. It might be the first time you’d be in a relationship where you could be exactly who you are.

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