by Counsellor, Leamington Spa, Warwickshire

Many people come to counselling and say things like ‘I have problems with my self-esteem’ or ‘I have always had low self-esteem’ and this is usually because other people have made comments about their behaviour.

Low self-esteem is sometimes used to describe someone who does not seem to like or value themselves and who believes that they are in some way inferior to others.

People suffering from low self-esteem may be susceptible to depression. Having a negative opinion about ourselves can have a significant impact on how we live our lives and how we relate to other people.

It can prevent us from achieving our potential and make us feel isolated, unhappy and ‘not good enough’.

Signs of low self-esteem

• Feeling down.
• Poor self care.
• People pleasing.
• Ruminating over events.
• Negative self talk.
• Avoiding potentially pleasurable activities.
• Underestimating strengths.
• Exaggerating weaknesses.

What causes low self-esteem?

Our experiences while growing up have a profound effect on how we view the world and our place in it. Other factors which may be influential include:

• Family of origin.
• Treatment at school.
• Relationships.
• Bullying.
• Divorce.
• Bereavement.
• Redundancy.

Can Counselling Help?

Counselling may help you to understand that the negative views you have of yourself are actually an opinion and not facts and can therefore be challenged. Counselling can help you to change the way you see yourself and have the confidence to live your life in a fulfilled way.

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