The only person who can really know that what you’re doing isn’t working is you. You’re the one who has to try and get yourself to sleep at night. No one else can do that for you. All those things that keep churning over in your mind may be hard to silence. The missed opportunities, the regrets, the sadnesses, the grief, the what ifs. In times of loss the noise we create inside our heads can become very loud. At some point it might become unbearable and you might need some help because what you are doing isn’t working. Or maybe it’s what you’re not doing that is not helping.
It might be useful to see your GP if you feel overwhelmed with the demands of life. It might also be useful to seek support from your family and friends if you are lucky enough to have them. Or it might be that you have tried those things and everything feels the same. Talking helps. It can change the way you see things and yourself. It can help you to connect and realise that you don’t have to face your difficulties alone. If you don’t have someone to work through what is bothering you with, then seeking therapy may help. Counselling and CBT can change lives.