It can feel exciting to get a ‘new toy’, whatever that ‘toy’ may be for you. Maybe it’s a new car that you just can’t stop admiring or a new gadget that you can’t put down. All these new things can help to break the monotony that can creep into our lives unnoticed and/or provide a welcome break from feelings of stress or anxiety. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It can become problematic, however, when we can’t enjoy or value what we have because we are worried about what we don’t have or what we want next.
Imagine how you would feel if one day your partner, if you have one, looked at you and said something like you’re looking a bit worn so I think I need to replace you. This happens in some relationships. While at some point in the future you might decide you were better off without them, imagine how distressed and unappreciated you would feel. Being able to value what you have can spill into all areas of your life. Sometimes it is hard to figure out whether it’s time to move on or to stay. Counselling could help you to decide.