I am always curious about how clients experience counselling. For me, it is crucial that I feel that on some level the therapist cares about me. Not massively, but if I feel like a transaction to them or that they have other things they would rather be doing then there is no second chance I’m afraid. I also recognise that it may be hard for some clients to feel cared for or that someone could ever care for them. I asked someone recently how they knew their therapist cared for them because they were very sure that their therapist did care. They replied “I feel it”.
It is a very powerful thing to feel cared about. It is very powerful in therapy. It’s a crucial ingredient. If you’re not feeling it then maybe it’s time to ask yourself why not?